Archive | February 2014

Lesson #5: It may feel like the end of the world, but it’s not

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“When you’re young everything feels like the end of the world. But it’s not; it’s just the beginning. You might have to meet a few more jerks, but one day you’re gonna meet a boy who treats you the way you deserve to be treated. Like the sun rises and sets with you.” – 17 Again

This is my favorite quote from the movie 17 Again (The video for the scene is at the bottom of this post) because it is very relatable. Many of us have felt at one time or another that the end of the world had come because of something that happened to us. Someone dies, a friend stabs you in the back, you get dumped, your dad lost his job, your family lost your house. There are all kinds of things that can happen and shake us to the core. In the moment it may feel like our whole world is falling down, but it’s not.

As teenagers or young adults we have only just begun our lives. We have so many more years, so many more experiences, failures, and successes. Maybe our best friend in the whole world stabbed you in the back and you don’t know how you are going to get through the next few months, but trust me, it’s not the end of the world. Yes, it is going to hurt for a while, but it gets better.

Sometimes all you need is support from some genuine friends. The kind of friends who care for you on a deep level and are willing to be there for you through thick and thin. When you’re dealing with something and it feels like the world is ending, pay attention to the things that these kinds of friends do. Notice the way they check up on you and/or try to make you smile. You may end up realizing you love them and they love you more than you thought. You may end up appreciating your friends more, and their love may prove that the world is indeed not over.

Personally, I want to thank all of my friends who have been there for me through thick and thin. I appreciate every time you have let me rant. Every time you have given me advice. Every time you have tried to cheer me up. You guys are amazing and I love you. ❤

Lesson #4: Don’t take anything or anyone for granted and don’t leave anything left unsaid

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We often live as if things will always be the same. As if our own little personal world will always exist. That no one will die or walk away. That we won’t lose anything or anyone that’s of importance to us.

However, there is always the risk of losing something tomorrow. Maybe it’s financial security or a friendship. Maybe it’s your opportunity for education. Those things are not guaranteed. Yet, people walk around as if they are.

I want to focus on people. The fact that no one is guaranteed to stay in your life. No one. Even if you come from a loving family and you know they will always be there for you, you still have no idea what the future may bring. Even if they never choose to leave, life happens, regardless.  The same goes for friends. It is rare to find lifetime friends. Even if you think you have, you still have no idea what could happen.

Yet, people walk around not caring how they treat each other. They blow people off. They treat people like options. They don’t put in effort to communicate. They stay angry long term because they know the other person will stick around. They just completely take people for granted.

Sometimes all it takes is a wakeup call. Someone threatens to walk away, so you snap back to reality. It’s not always that easy, though. Sometimes you lose them for good. I walked away from a friendship in high school that once meant the world to me because it was obvious I was being taken for granted.

Sometimes life just doesn’t give you the chance to try again.

What if you wake up tomorrow and that best friend you once had no longer cares because you made them feel like an option? What if you woke up tomorrow and a family member has passed away before you got the chance to make up after a fight? What if you don’t get a change to say “I’m sorry”? What if you don’t get a chance to say “I love you”? Don’t leave anything left unsaid.